THE CIRCLE
by Elif Köse Transformational Confidence Coach
I have spent much of my working life in spaces where women are visible, yet not always fully expressed.
My career began in fashion, an industry built on image, perception, and polish. I watched women walk taller when they put something beautiful on. I saw how clothing could give confidence and how quickly that confidence could disappear the moment the external layer was removed.
That stayed with me.
Because what I saw, again and again, were capable, intelligent women who looked powerful on the outside, yet were internally bracing — holding themselves together, second-guessing, performing strength rather than feeling rooted in it.
Fashion didn’t fail women.
It simply showed me the limit of what the external can do.
From Appearance to Authority
Over time, my work shifted from how women look to how women feel in themselves — and how that inner state shapes the way they lead, speak, decide, and relate.
I am deeply committed to seeing more women in leadership — not as a political stance, but as a human one. Because when women are present at the table, the quality of leadership changes. Not better than men. Different.
- More relational.
- More collaborative.
- More attuned.
When women lead from a regulated, grounded place, systems soften. Conversations deepen. Power becomes less about dominance and more about stewardship.
But this kind of leadership doesn’t come from pushing harder or proving more. It comes from internal safety.
What It Feels Like to Be in My Spaces
Women often tell me the same thing after stepping into a room I hold:
“I felt safe immediately.”
“I didn’t feel judged.”
“I could finally ask for help.”
That’s not accidental.
It’s intentional.
My spaces are no-judgement rooms.
No hierarchy.
No posturing.
No performative confidence.
No pretentious nonsense.
You don’t need the right language.
You don’t need to sound impressive.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need to be real.
Support here is practical, human, and grounded.
Care is not performative.
Sharing is not strategic.
The Circle Ethos: Care, Share, Lead
I believe in women supporting women, not as a slogan, but as a lived standard. Inside The Circle:
- We don’t compete for visibility
- We don’t diminish other women to elevate ourselves
- We don’t talk behind backs
- We don’t withhold support to maintain advantage
We care.
We share.
And we rise — together.
Not by hardening.
But by softening into our authority.
Why Safety Comes First
Confidence is not something women lack.
It’s something many have learned to override in order to belong, succeed, or survive.
When the nervous system is under pressure, confidence becomes performative.
When safety returns, confidence becomes natural.
That understanding is the foundation of everything I create.
The Circle, In Practice
Alongside the deeper transformational work inside the membership, The Circle also gathers in person.
Every two months, we meet for a curated Circle Lunch:
- One keynote speaker sharing lived experience, not polished performance
- An open mic space where voices are welcomed without judgement
- A shared guest list so connection doesn’t end at the table
- One simple, grounding opening question:
“How can I help you — and how can you help me?”
These lunches are intentionally limited to 50 women to protect depth, safety, and genuine connection.
📍 Last Thursday of every other month
🍽 Two-course lunch included
Investment:
£89 bi-monthly (every other month)
Why The Circle Exists
The Circle exists because women don’t need more information.
They need spaces where they can exhale, recalibrate, and lead from truth rather than tension.
It’s for women who work, lead, create, and contribute — and who are done pretending they don’t need support.
It’s not a networking club.
It’s not a performance space.
It’s a room where leadership begins internally and ripples outward.
Welcome to The Circle
This is not about becoming louder. It’s about becoming steadier.
Not about proving yourself. But about trusting yourself — and being trusted by others.
Because when women feel safe inside themselves,
they don’t just lead differently.
They change the tone of rooms. The culture of systems. And the future we’re shaping together.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is The Circle a networking group?
No — and that’s intentional.
While meaningful connections naturally form, The Circle is not transactional networking. It’s a relational space where support, insight, and opportunity emerge through trust, not performance or pitching.
Do I need to speak, share, or be “confident” to belong here?
Absolutely not.
You’re never required to share, perform, or speak before you’re ready. Many women join precisely because they want a space where they don’t have to prove themselves to be welcomed.
What kind of women is The Circle for?
The Circle is for women who work, lead, create, and contribute — and who value depth, honesty, and real support over hierarchy, status, or competition. If you’re done with pretence and ready for grounded connection, you’ll feel at home here.
Is this about replacing ambition with softness?
No.
This is about redefining leadership so ambition doesn’t come at the cost of your nervous system, relationships, or integrity. We don’t remove ambition — we humanise it.
What keeps The Circle safe and grounded?
Clear standards.
No judgement, no hierarchy, no back-channel gossip, no power plays. Care, respect, and integrity are not assumed — they’re practised. This is what allows trust to form quickly and genuinely.
What if I’ve booked but can’t attend—is the ticket refundable or transferable?
Tickets are non-refundable, as numbers, catering, and the integrity of the Circle are confirmed in advance.
If you’re unable to attend, you’re welcome to transfer your place to another woman, provided you notify us in advance and she aligns with the values and tone of The Circle.